just joined and underrsandwhat yu re saying. my situaion is as a little bit different so do not know if right for here when at school etc my dad was a gardiner in a village. his boss lived spme miles away.but he would visit quit frequently. when he did and stayed over niight, i was moved from my room to the spare room on the opposite side i was 14 when it struck me a funny, as alsp my dad sslept in the spae room to now i do realise why i tink my bedroom shared a wall with my parents room and sound did travel.. i did a few times later manage to creep and listen now ofcourse do realize e was fucking my mum this has alwats stuck in my mind so now i am much the same as it is happening with my own marriage, we do work for tee same furniture large shop with vey dominant man in charge sorry not a writer or expert oon a computor and likely not really a bully sort of thing be safe